Too Young
If I was told that I was too young to do something, like staying out later than my too early cerfu or something else like that, then I wouldn’t have as much of a problem with being told that. But I have been told that I’m too young pretty much all my life.
I think the most that I have been told that I’m too young for is getting married. I didn’t care the first few times people felt the need to tell me that after telling them I was getting married and that I’m only 18, but after hearing it a bajillion times it gets aggravating. Apparently people expect everyone to wait until they are 30 or something to get married. All of my close family has gotten married young and there is nothing wrong with their marriages. I guess because I’m too young I don’t know what I feel or what I’m doing. Just throwing my life away. Well, that’s not how I feel about it and that’s why I don’t listen to the people that say that to me.
I think the first time I remember hearing that I was too young for something was when I started developing. I was in elementry school when I got my first bra. I think I remember my dad saying to my mom “Isn’t she too young for that?!” Then when we went to go get it someone at the store said I was too young. Either way, I needed it. lol
Then a few years ago it was my back. I started having back problems and everyone (even my doctor) has told me that I’m too young to be having back problems like I do. Well I’m sorry, it is not my choice to be in pain like this. Trust me, if I had a choice I would never have back problems.
I really can’t think of any other major things that I have been told that I’m too young for, but I know there are more, other pains and such. :/
June 19th, 2008 at 11:07 am
well maybe the getting married part isn’t ‘you’re too young’ its just unexpected and unheard of since that is when everyone is graduating highschool and heading off to college and what not so that place & time in life is not the time for marriage? but it does happen so if it makes you happy then go for it!
but yea i think when you reach 25 no one will tell you you are too young for anything anymore
June 19th, 2008 at 1:12 pm
Lol, when I got my first bra I was in school and it was so hot we were throwing water at each other. I was wearing a white T-shirt and when it got wet everyone could see through it. Then one of my so-called friends told me ‘why do you even wear a bra if you don’t have breasts!?’. I needed it too, but I could have died there. I didn’t even tell her anything. When I think about it know I laugh my head off though
You know, I think that 18 is not too young, it is just uncommon. Some persons think that getting married young means that you just dropped out of school and such. I don’t know what’s your case but keep in mind that there are people who got married at a young age and were very successful in life. Other’s weren’t. Some people who got married at 30 were successful in life and others weren’t, as well. What I’m trying to say is that you can achieve or do whatever you want in life, no matter your age. There isn’t a ‘too young’ age or ‘too old’ age. It’s when you feel ready to do something. Anyhow, congrats for the wedding, I wish you lots of happiness together
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June 19th, 2008 at 1:57 pm
I don’t think 18 is “too young” necessarily; it’s really something that varies from person to person. My best friend got married when she was 18, and it’s been fantastic - the guy she married was perfect for her, and the marriage was exactly what she needed to do at that time. She has always been very mature and had no trouble with getting married. She and her hubby will be celebrating their 7th anniversary this year.
On the other hand, I knew people in high school who definitely should not have gotten married at 18. Shoot, I know people who should not get married at 30 or 35. It’s not a matter of age - it’s a matter of maturity and beliefs and opportunity.
June 19th, 2008 at 2:15 pm
Well, I’ve always been told that I’m very mature for my age. I may be 18, but I’ll be done with college in two semesters and I already have my own business.
June 19th, 2008 at 4:10 pm
If you’re in love why does age matter? Only for like 10 year olds.
June 19th, 2008 at 10:32 pm
Getting married at 18 is a bit young, i am not saying you shouldn’t because if you love each other that much then age shouldn’t matter. From watching what my friends have gone through, it seems to take more work getting married young then if you would wait. I say congrats and good luck! I hope you have many years of a happy marriage! BTW i also hat being told i am too young to do anything. I know that although i may be young i have a new business that is doing quite well for being just under a year old. Plus i have plans on expanding it.
June 20th, 2008 at 7:13 am
I wore my first bra in high school. just saying. hehehe.
anyway, it’s just the society tells us that 18 or younger than that is too young to get married. Similar to.. you can’t have a relationship with your cousin because that’s not normal.
But it’s normal to fall in love. I am with you. Take care, becca.
June 21st, 2008 at 10:21 am
I know this sounds cheesy, but follow your heart.
It is young, but it’s your life and you are an adult who can make her own decisions. People told me I was too young to get married at 21…soooo, lol. If that goes to show you anything!! I think no matter what age you are under lets say 23, people are going to say it’s too young. But that is beside the point. If you’re in love, and you know it’s right, go for it. 
June 24th, 2008 at 8:27 pm
People will always have opinions. But, you have to decide what’s “right” for you.
If someone I know was 18 and wanted to get married, I would honestly try to talk them out of it initially. Why? Because I feel like they’d be making a mistake. Still, I’d eventually support them if the marriage was healthy.
Everyone goes through life at their own pace. Don’t be afraid to let people know that, and where they can shove their opinion, lol.
June 25th, 2008 at 11:14 am
They probably just want to make sure you know what you’re doing. The bad part is they don’t remember how it felt for them to be told they were too young for stuff, so they don’t know how frustrating it is to be looked down on and told what to do like some little kid that can’t even tie their shoes.
From what I can see, you really love him, and marriage is a perfectly normal response to that. So what if you get married a little young. More years of wedded bliss for you. Silly old people…
June 28th, 2008 at 3:01 am
If you feel that you are able to commit to it for the rest of your life, then I would say all for it!! You’re always going to be too young for something. I found that the only person that I had to prove it to was myself. But in all aspects, whenever someone says that they are just worried for you. You just have to walk through with them and accept their love that is shown in their own way. Getting married is a big deal… espcially if you are that young and you’re not looking to remarry ever again. Take in some marriage books, prepare yourself… because it will be a tough ride…
June 30th, 2008 at 2:30 am
Older people could be speaking from experience about their love life; but they’re not you, who are they to say you’re too young for your marriage? And a first bra? Shouldn’t it be whether you’ve developed breasts, and not how old you are? People can be really funny.
June 30th, 2008 at 5:18 pm
Yeah. I know how you feel about being told your too young. I don’t think getting married at 18 is too young. It just depends on how long you two have known one another. I won’t say that they have a higher chance of surviving, because they don’t, but I don’t think it’s that bad to get married young as long as you’ve thought it out.
July 2nd, 2008 at 4:33 am
When I was four years old, I remember bugging my parents because I wanted to take up ballet lessons. Their response to me was, “you’re too young” - which we all know is not true at all. (In fact, the younger you start, the better.)
So, I waited a couple of years before I asked again, at age 6. Their response became … “no, you’re too old!”
Graarrr.
July 3rd, 2008 at 5:44 am
you can be too young for some things, but never too old for anything
July 3rd, 2008 at 4:23 pm
Welllll, studies have shown that your brain is still very much developing til about the age of 24 or something. And younger kids can not connect long-term effects to short-term decisions. So when you’re going through this transition period [puberty] from around 14 til 22, you think you can foresee consequences but the truth is, your brain just isn’t developed enough.
I used that as an argument on why people shouldn’t drive cars at 16, things like that. So yeah, I do believe in the “too young” argument. When your body is developing, you shouldn’t damage it: drugs, alcohol… things you can totally be too young for.
That being said, I don’t know you personally and I wouldn’t want to judge you on your marriage. Just throwing in some annoying opinion ;P And you’re 18: not quite as young as 16, so we’d assume that your brain is superdeveloped and you know what you’re doing. [And if your breasts were already developed quickly ;)]
Wellllllll. I dislike marriage anyway, so I feel like I’m just going to be a bummer here, so I’ll shut up now. I hope everything turns out for the best for you though!!
July 8th, 2008 at 7:45 am
i know how you feel! i’ve been told “you’re too young” all my life. first im too young to get a job. then im too young to drive by myself. now im too young to hang out with my cousins. since they all can go clubbing, but im too young for that.
but couple of days ago i realized, no matter how old i get im still going to be “too young” since by the time i reach the clubbing age, they would probably out grow that. but i have to accept it =\
my two friends are actually planning on getting married when they turn 18. i dont really agree with that, but they can do whatever they want. maybe you should talk with these people about your choices. =)